From the magical alternate universe that is Craig's List:
Could it be you?Reply to: ANONYMIZED
Date: 2008-02-02, 3:19PM
I like girls of all styles: femme (low-maintenance, please), boi, androgenous, FTM (pre/no-op), genderqueer. Caucasian, Latina, Multi-racial are my favorites. I also have some deep-seated love for Drag Kings! ;)
Can we have a talk about how much I hate: a) the phrase "high/low-maintenance," b) the rush to imply that femmes, in particular, are "high-maintenance," and c) referring to FTMs as a "style" of "girl"? (Ohhh, but only if they're pre- or no-op! Because, I mean, what's the point of dating an FTM "girl" without boobs, right?)
Sadly, this crap is super-common, although I think this is the first time I've seen both femme-targeted snideness and total lack of understanding of what "FTM"means in the same ad.
Sorry, honey, but I'm not going to respond to that kind of emotional blackmailing - I'll ask for what I need from my partner, and do whatever it takes to make myself comfortable in my own skin, and I won't be shamed out of it by snotty claims that I require too much maintenance. If your ego or your free-wheelin' schedule can't take that, I don't have the time or the energy to maintain you.
And if you think that someone's going to go through all the self-discovery, social hassle, and every medical intervention that doesn't involve a scalpel, all to be acknowledged as a female-to-male transperson by the world . . . and, after all that, decide to date someone who refers to him as a "girl" -- well, all I'm sayin' is, don't hold your breath.
Looking forward to hearing from you!
Yeah. That's not going to happen. Unless you're reading this.